My progressively developing therapeutic technique incorporates the strengths from a number of therapeutic schools. These include:
⦁ Emotion-Focussed (EFT)
⦁ Internal Family Systems (IFT)
⦁ Psychodynamic
⦁ Transpersonal
⦁ Gestalt
⦁ Existential
Intuitively weaving through the various modalities, I aim to help my clients shift their thoughts, emotions and schemas, explore and resolve past traumas, as well as meaningfully interpret and re-author their life narratives. I believe that everyone’s identity needs to be underwritten with well-established personal truths, ideas, values and that almost any of life’s obstacles can be overcome if a person is true to their purpose, morals and love.
As a practicing psychotherapist (rather than a psychologist), I draw on a holistic framework instead of a medical/ diagnostic approach. I constantly try to shift my focus between subjectivity and objectivity to attempt to tune in to your experience, as well as attain external insight. I see therapy not as ‘doctor-patient’ scenario but rather as two colleagues ‘tackling a problem together’. The aim is to connect with you on an emotional /intellectual/experiential and/or spiritual level, therefore allowing your issues to be explored with a level of subjectivity and always with a high degree of compassionate understanding.
Contrary to the classic therapeutic outlook, in my opinion, self-disclosure is a must, as we learn from ourselves as much as from others. In my own experience as a client, I found that I developed significantly stronger connections with therapists who shared their relevant life experiences and struggles compared to those who only focused on my story. Therapeutic self-disclosure taught me to recognise that all people have struggles and unresolved matters in their lives; and that there are no essential differences between a therapist and client.
In my view, a good therapist is somebody who continues to face and overcome a range of hardships throughout their life. It is someone who has been beaten down physically, emotionally and/or psychologically, and has stood up on countless occasions; learning and evolving from each experience. The best healers are those that have (and continue) to be healed themselves, not relying primarily on textbooks and statistics, but rather, use their personal journeys, learnt coping strategies and insights to help alleviate pain in others. While knowledge of psycho-therapeutic theories is mandatory, I believe that underneath all our apparent complexities, we are all alike, relatively simple and intelligible.
My motto is that everything happens for a reason, even if the reason is not yet understood. Almost ANYTHING can be achieved both personally and professionally, and any trait, thought, emotion or behaviour can be shifted. I believe that our minds and hearts hold all the answers to the universe and learning to listen and appreciate our deeper selves is the ultimate goal of any form of self-growth and development.